Judging from my Life experiences, I am not the best person to write about this topic, I mean! I haven't being the best person to be friends with, *sucks*, maybe because coaches don't play, haha. The truth is, I am not the best because no one is cus We're all learners in this thing called LIFE.
So, Friendship, Technological, you would wonder how these two relate. I will try my hardest to make this as clear as possible. For this illustration, we will be using the mobile phone as our sample
* We are the Mobile Phones, In mobile phones, there are some applications installed by the manufacturers which we didn't get to choose whether we needed them or not, and we also don't have permission to uninstall, we can only choose not to use them, but then, that doesn't stop them from occupying space in our phones. Relatively, we are born into families that we didn't get to choose, the Creator chose them for us and we don't get to remove them either, we can only choose to stay disconnected from them but don't get to nullify their status as family members, could be father, mother, brothers or sister, we only get them, we can't replace them.
* With the preinstalled or Inbuilt applications in our mobile phones, our mobile phones function very well and we can choose to use them like that as long as we want. But then due to need for something new or to carry out more activities, we get attracted to some new applications which we choose to install on our phones. Remember we choose them unlike the inbuilt applications which we don't get to choose. Not just that, we also choose when to uninstall them. This Applications are our Friends. Despite we can still function great being on our own, we still get to want to bond with new people from time to time. This people we choose whether to welcome them into our lives or not and also get to decide when we want them out of our lives.
* With this intentionally installed applications, from time to time some applications become outdated and if we don't update them, they begin to function abnormally, and also since the mobile phone updates its operating system from time to time, they become incompatible with the mobile phones, they become hard to use. This is same with our Friends. Their personalities keep evolving. With time you notice some changes which could be due to change in environment, change from yourself, or just because change is constant. Now if you don't update yourself i.e get used to this new version of them, you will keep throwing tantrums and keep having misunderstandings and quarrels with them. You become incompatible with them.
* At one point or the other, some applications become useless. You can choose to uninstall them and save your mobile phone space and help it run better or you can choose to keep them and slow down your phone running speed for no good reason and still occupy memory space. Some applications become bugs to our mobile phone, they begin to cause problems rather than support our phones. Friends are the same, there are friends we have made who don't impact us in any good way. Some who have become toxic to us and only make us worse human beings. We can choose to keep them and just waste our time, life, cause ourselves headaches for no good reason and just make life harder to live or we can just get rid them, cut them from our lives and keep only the people who support and impact us positively.
* When we visit an app store to download these applications, there are certain promised features, lots of packaging to make the app look the best and make us want to install them. While some apps have the exact same features represented on the app store description, some don't and we end up getting disappointed. These are just like our friends, when we meet for the time, they look so perfect and without flaws, well some of them. When we get to know them, some fit close to perfect to our first impression of them, while some others don't come close. Its left to us to know what and what not to believe.
* There are applications we have loved that aren't really compatible with our mobile phones. Sometimes due to desperation, we find a way to force install them. At the end of the day, they end up causing problems for our phones which we can choose to keep bearing and reduce our phone lifespan or delete this apps and save the life of our phones. In the same way, there are people we have met who we don't really connect or vibe with, but due to desperation for power or some sort of need, we welcome them into lives and they end up being disasters to our lives and causing lots of havoc, which we can choose to bear and suffer stress which reduces our life span or get rid of them as soon as we can.
* There are some applications we need but never keep. We install them when we need them and uninstall immediately after use and install them again when next we need them. These are those friends we never really care for. But always find ourselves around them when we need their help. You might think you are not one of those who keep this kind of friends, but you agree you will most probably be this kind of friend to someone.
* When our phones stop working, or die, these applications we loved so much still keep functioning for other phones and don't stop working just because the phone stopped working. Infact, we can send them to other phones and they will function perfectly. This applies to us. When we die, everybody goes about their daily lives, all the friends we lived our lives to impress, all the friends who told us we are their lifelines and all the sweet things they called us like Blood, my world e.t.c. no longer make sense. Life just goes on for others even after it ends for us.
* There are some apps which manufacturers make as optional to delete but warn us that it may affect the normal running of the system. When we go ahead to delete them despite the warning sometimes it actually affects normal running of the system so we are forced to find this apps to reinstall them. Yes, some friends are like God sent. When we in our stupidity try to get rid of them, God warns us, though we never really understand, so after we lose them, we find ourselves going back to them to beg them to come back into our lives, because without them our lives are just like a huge MESS. Its with this that I want appreciate this kind of friends in my own life. I am sure they read till here. Thank You.
