Why You Are Ugly

       The topic of this blog might hit really hard because of my choice of words, but isn't that how we really feel about ourselves or others sometimes? ofcus Yes. Ugliness can be a very subjective idea, which is why we came up with the quote "Beauty is in the eyes of the Beholder" just so we can all feel beautiful in our different forms. But does that even really work these days, with the continuous definition of standards of what various parts of the body should look like, what size the nose, mouth, ears, bum should be to look good, etcetera etcetera..? I doubt so, well we will find out if you don't quit reading halfway the article to reply to a surprising message from your crush.

       Ugliness according the dictionary is the quality of being unpleasant in appearance, another interesting definition says aesthetically unattractive. In other words, Ugliness is simply not meeting majority of the man-made standard of what a beautiful person should look like. Now, As much as most of us would always deny the fact that we find some people ugly, we still end up proving ourselves wrong in some way. Take for example, a girl who tells her friend everyday that she(her friend) is beautiful, but then her brother tells her to hook him up with a beautiful girl and then she immediately remembers all the standards of what a beautiful person looks like and forgets her friend who she's always reminded is beautiful. Or a lady who says her man is handsome but still goes ahead to say things like he's not that good looking but I still love him. This shows that we have all being affected by this beauty standards and it shows no matter how much we try to hide it. Proves that we only tell people they are beautiful, just to be supportive, not because we really think so. Damn! We are all fucked.

      Now, Physical beauty standards might have being messed up so bad, but behavioral hasn't. There are so many more forms of Ugliness we have power over, Bad Behaviors, Gestures, Personality, Intentions, Attitude, Mental state, Health, Wealth, Energy, Vibe, we can keep naming till the trumpet blows. And a lot of these may have similar meanings but you get the point. The physical forms of Ugliness are Harmless but these other forms can be really Harmful because A bad personality will always bring down a pretty face.

     In conclusion, Its OK to feel like you don't meet the Physical beauty standards, Its OK for your nose to look really big or very small, its OK to be short, extremely tall, Its OK to think your head shape is not that cute, maybe because its really big, 'lol'. But you can't limit your Beauty to all of that, There's so much more you can offer and when you begin to pay attention to this so much more, everything begins to change. All these above are OK but they tend to affect your self esteem when you can't see past them. It doesn't always have to be about the face or body shape. Don't let people tell you you are beautiful just to be supportive because, YOU ARE REALLY BEAUTIFUL, you just need to know it and shine it. You have a beautiful smile, You have an amazing personality, the way you care about people is so so attractive, the positive vibe you give off is Damn sexy, your amazing mental state, how happy you are is Gorgeous, Your intentions towards people is immaculate, your gestures are to die for, Your creativity is saucy and I can't wait to marry you and have kids with you, The way you react to situations is why I will always love you. With all these other beauties, every other thing looks even more beautiful, even the physical. Yes, you might probably not expect a lot of right swipes on Tinder or to be hit on a lot on the street or lots of slides in the dm, and that's because most of these are solely based on stupid beauty standards, they have no idea the million more beauties you have to offer, and it shouldn't affect your self esteem a bit because your confidence does not and should not depend on it. Just keep shinning what makes you BEAUTIFUL, Let your confidence depend on it, focus on your most confidence self and every other part of you radiates same energy and attracts people of similar energy.

You might not believe this but your confidence in your beauty shows in your pictures, so when it looks bad, its because you think you are not beautiful and my friend I hate to say this but, this is WHY YOU ARE UGLY.